The Unshakeable Blueprint: How to Be Confidently Attractive and Influential Without Faking It
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If you’re wondering on how to be confident in yourself to approach prospective clients, new opportunities, or perhaps someone you like, let me tell you, confidence isn’t about pretending.
It isn’t about having the loudest voice in the room. Because for socially attractive, being socially attractive, some people think that that is the requirement. But being heard isn’t about being the loudest. Often when someone tries too hard to raise their volume, it quietly signals insecurity.
So I will take you through six practical and one spiritual technique to be more confident in yourself and understand how to be confident and influential without faking it.
First of all, understand that you have to keep promises to yourself.
What do I mean by that? Well, I mean that if you say you are going to study or you’re going to be taking up a particular task at a particular time, you’re going to do that. If you say you’re going to hit the gym, then you’ll show up because following through builds selfrust which is the foundation of the confidence.
And this selfrust is very important.
Like we say that we trust somebody when you know they have shown enough proof.
We need to build that trust for ourselves in us only through proof. And when we are going to follow through whatever we have promised ourselves that is when the trust starts building up and that’s when we start trusting our own self.
Next point practical point for building confidence and sustaining it is to do hard things on purpose.
You see growth doesn’t happen in comfort. You know you have to push yourself into challenges sometimes. Even when you’re feeling nervous like some of us feel stage fright right so even if we are feeling that stage fright we still do the thing that is required to be done in the moment right if you promised to be in the debate if you promised to take up the stage for a particular topic you still have to do it even if you have stage fright so then at that moment at that very moment when you take up the task even feeling jitters within that is when you’re building yourself up because each hard thing that you conquer proves to your brain that you are capable.
Third point, stop comparing yourself to others.
You know there are so many people that you can compare yourself with in this world. But you know when your journey is unique, your comparison steals your own joy. Why compare? Focus on being better than yesterday that you were. You have to make yourself better by 1% every single day. Try focusing on that. Use others as inspiration but not competing. For example, if you see an influencer on YouTube and you feel that wow they look amazing, they talk amazing, they feel amazing, I’d like to be like that. That is inspiration.
But if you’re being jealous that they are there and why am I struggling, it will not help you. In fact, it could impact you negatively. And I’ll take that up in another video. But for now, let’s get on with the next the the rest of the topics.
Number four, improve posture and your body language.
You see, when you stand tall and you maintain eye contact and you are smiling, your body is signaling confidence.
It is saying to your brain, I’m not acting. I’m just enjoying myself. I’m comfortable here. And that is something that you’re telling yourself that you are confident, comfortable in your skin right there in that moment.
Next point is about speaking kindly to yourself.
You see, there are going to be a lot of people that you meet who are not going to be kind to you. And and everybody has a different temperament, right? So some people get agitated about a small petty thing, some people take longer time to get agitated, but sometimes we just get rubbed off in the wrong way. You know what I mean? In that case, at least you can be kinder to yourself.